"I love you but i'm sorry there is nothing i can do,let's just quit and be friends"
Friends? I think not! He didn't show up for my call to bar party,says when coming back from the ceremony i didn't update him on movement as per the party that i relegated him to the background and showed he was not my priority(for God sakes i had too many things going on,it was my day of glory,pple wer calling me,waiting for me at the house and we planned this together!) so i was supposed to do what?my mum wonders why? She hears gist of fights we had before from my siblings and that he said "it was cos of my stupidity he didn't come for my party,that day is gone now and there's nothing i can do to bring it back" she says no way,the guy don't respect you enough. I said couples must fight,not showing up at my party was gross but then he apologised,i forgave,no need crying over spilt milk,yea? But then,mom says no way,sis beefs and i stupidly told him(yea,i know...no information management) well,things escalate,mom shuts down,he shuts down,no more communication and i say to him,call mom and explain why you were not there,he says no,he can't and won't,(why do they all sudddenly hate him cos he was not at the party?he does not need to kiss ass to show he loves me or deserves her daughter and since i'm cool with his folks and he not with
mine hence the above quote from him tonight. he says mom never liked him,she just used call to bar party as an excuse,imagine that?
He asks or do i have an alternative solution?me?how? When he's made up his mind? I said no,he says lets talk about it,what's left to tslk about? We have talked,fought,i have even begged (don't know why or for what) but it has got us nowhere. My mum is expecting him to call and explain(why,it was my party,abi?) He is not going to call and to him,she hates him and will always be a factor in the relationship so he breaks up with me though he is with me and not her(i don't get it)
Right now,i'm just numb,really don't know what to think or say. But then,if he loves me so much,am i not worth swallowing his pride for to call mom? Do you love so much and let go cos you can't 'kiss ass',is that how love plays out? Should you not fight,kiss ass if you have to to get your desired love or am i just being impractical and romantic? I'm confused,help!
5 comments:
It is painful, i understand, but i believe that a man that loves you will respect ur mum,it is not out of place for ur mum to ask about him or to be angry that she didn't come for such an important event in ur life, it even shows that she consders him a part of the family.
Please don't make him feel like he's the very air u need to breathe cos u sure can trade ur mum for him.
What will be, will be. If u guys are meant for each other, things will sort it self out.
i really don't get it. what is the big deal, why couldn't he just call your mum
if he loves that much as he claims he would fight for you. its really sad..
what will meant to be will be. i don't think this guy is worth the trouble. he just showed you what he is capable of doing..
Babe, u got good advice here, mystique and bsnc wouldnt have said it better. if he loves u (which i think he does, ego just dey worry am), he must learn to do right, call ur mum.
if he cant do this now, what happens when u marry? settle it now or he will not let u go see ur mum or worse still, chase her from ur home when u get married.
i dont think I can offer unbiased advice on this. I personally won't have ended it, but I dont think my love for a woman excuses insults from her family.
I would call to respectfully set the record straight. Give him time tho, he may come round and if he doesn't, u can move on
Dude needs to pull his head outta his a$$!!
To put it politely.. WTF is wrong with him???
Sounds more like HE's using your mom as an excuse.. There's a bit more to luvin' a woman than you and her...
Tsk! Tsk!! Hope he reads this..
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